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But, when we fight dullness we are more attractive, more memorable and more likable. Our brains are like really hungry toddlers—they are easily bored and demand to be fed with entertaining nuggets. Our brains are attracted to intriguing, interesting, engaging people and things. Luckily, you are an intriguing, interesting, engaging person!

Now get your mind out of the gutter!

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Most interactions look like a flat-line graph. So, to stop being boring you have to cause more emotional excitement for the person. And by the way, this also is more emotionally exciting for you and will help keep you more engaged. When you meet someone or are on a date you ask the same questions over and over and give the same answers. So, if you want to be engaging you have to get out of your comfort zone and start asking questions that matter. Here are three ideas for you:.

The late American psychologist and educator John Dewey discovered one of the most fundamental aspects of people. He found there is one thing that every person on this Earth wants:. Once someone has the basics of food and shelter all they want is to feel cherished, valued and worthy.

When we are interested, we are more interesting!

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Try this…. You also can be attractive nonverbally. You know how much we love our body language research. And studies show that the majority of our communication is actually nonverbal. If you try even one of these techniques, all with the goal of making others feel important and fighting boredom, you will be amazed at how much more interesting your conversations will be.

Her groundbreaking book, Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People has been translated into more than 16 languages. As a recovering awkward person, Vanessa helps millions find their inner charisma. She regularly le innovative corporate workshops and helps thousands of individual professionals in her online program People School.

I try my hardest at it everyday and no matter how hard I try, it never works. Growing up, I was never taught how to effectively communicate and this could be a reason as to why any relationship that I have, always fails. Life itself teaches you alot of things and the one thing that has failed me is communication. I put a lot of blame on my mom because she was the main person that raised me and my siblings.

This is one reason why I will not get married. I know that a marriage to me would end up divorced because of my communication skills. Yes some will saywell how do you know that….

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Im good on that and that is why I will never get married. For some reason, I can connect with you. It is difficult to live with people who have certain type of image of us. Of course, communication plays a part in any relationship but it is not everything.

It is just a skill like playing a harmonica. We play with rules and can become better. And every new connection would be better than before.

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I read your comment I have the exact same problem. Do you think there is any help for us out there? I have been trying several techniques to become more sociable and lively in conversations yet I rarely click with most people, especially the extrovert ones. This is despite me trying my best to contribute to conversations; I often have very little to say or nothing exciting to share.

Also, if you put me in a room of people, you would expect not to remember me at the end of the meeting since I am often overlooked even if I had conversation with you. I have graduated from one of the leading institutions of the country and when people realize that, they are more Looking for someone who isn t boring that I do not seem to be a graduate of the university as my conversational and social skills are pretty poor.

Any guidance will be greatly appreciated! I am trying to implement these tips and I am listening and allowing people to talk, being engaged, using follow up questions and all that good stuff. People have always felt very comfortable opening up to me my whole life. My issue is when will people care about what I have to say. I feel like im constantly getting cut off and at this point I just feel used as a venting outlet! What should I do? Often the best way to do this without seeming to monopolise the conversation is by connecting what you want to say, however loosely, to what they say.

Another way is to outright state beforehand that what you are about to say will probably interest them. I always thought it was just me who gets bored of things easily, I am so glad I am not the only one! I love this article!! But so does meditation, nothing really matters.

Ultimately nothing is important. Just smile and enjoy life for what it is. I am 13 years old and moved to a different state about 7 months ago. When ever we are all together i feel like the third wheel because they like make jokes and giggle but me on the other hand sit there and just stare and laugh awkwardly, while they like look at me like im slow or something.

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I think i have a good personality like im very kind. When ever i say something that i think is funny they would look at each other then laugh. Sometimes when i speak they dont seem to hear me not any of the other kids in my school hear me. This was years ago when I moved to a different country. How to not be boring is probably tied for first place along with influence as my favorite Science of People topic.

I love this article. Another great read!! All these tips are wonderful and have been implementing them as I converse with others.

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I have always naturally used the techniques you describe on how to be attractive verbally and non verbally. Yes, they work wonders for the for the person being engaged. However, in nearly every circumstance, the person ends up being totally engaged in themselves and shows very little interest in me. They often tell me how much they have enjoyed my company without realising I was just a sounding board to them. I would rather learn how to have a mutually satisfying two way conversation. If you feel comfortable with what you find, share a bit. Test them out by sharing a short experience from your day or something that happened that intrigues you.

Some people are better at drawing you out when you give them a subject to ask about. They are really very different from my old friends they communicate with each other so friendly because they are common things with each other also there are new students like me though but the new students the get with each other so fastly.

I feel myself so different from them and the most problem is that i am introverted person and whenever i talk to them or try to talk with them from their expression i can see that they are bored though i try my best to bring up a lot of topics while they keep quite. Hi Raniya, thank you for sharing your story. As an introvert myself, I know it can be challenging to make new friends in a new environment. I recommend speaking one-on-one with someone or a few people to get to know them.

This allows you to open up in a non-group setting. Hope this helps! Table of Contents. Tim Grivell. Danielle Science of People. in Charisma.

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